How to Make Him Celebrate Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is a season of love.

There is so much love in the air, you can almost feel it.

A wise woman once said, “The most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or touched; they must be felt with the heart.” And what is the most beautiful feeling in the world if not love? What is the most liberating, fulfilling and most assuring feeling in the world if not love?

However, if Valentine’s Day is coming up and you’ve made plans only to speak with your lover and discover the most devastating news ever: He’s not up for it, he’ll “pass.” Then we have the guide for you.

Nothing could be more disappointing and soul wrecking than hoping to celebrate the season of love with your soulmate and having those hopes crushed by his lack of festivity. However, it’s not over yet – something can still be done.

All hope isn’t lost

You can still have your perfect day of love with your lover.

While it’s easy to get sucked into all the despair and frustration you’re feeling toward your boyfriend right now, you should also try to understand him and see things from his perspective.

He’s not trying to be a jerk. This is a sensitive issue for him. Bear in mind that February 14 may be a really hard day for him. He may have reasons for not wanting to celebrate Valentine’s Day. Ask him about them.

You may love him so much that your chest hurts, and be very big on Valentine’s day. You may have grown up in a super happy, super loving, super celebratory home in which Valentine’s Day had a whole culture around it. But that may not be the case for him, and you may be heartbroken having to choose between the two.

However, you don’t have to end your near-perfect relationship with him because of this, and Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to pass without making memories.

A few ideas for how to get him to celebrate Valentine’s Day:

• First, try to understand him, try being in his shoes and see for yourself what makes him hate this day. Try to understand where it stems from, whether a traumatic incident happened that day, or whether he’s simply not allured by the hype of the holiday.
• Remember that he loves you, thoroughly and unfailingly; if he doesn’t, he wouldn’t be with you in the first place. If he doesn’t, he wouldn’t have pursued you relentlessly, wouldn’t have asked you out on that first date, and then the second, and then the lovely third that cinched it for you both.
• Spice things up! It’s the season of romance, after all. Raid your closet for that devil-red lingerie he loves so much, the one that pronounces your curves and makes you look and feel like a goddess. Let the speakers’ blast with his favorites: Whitney Houston, Ed Sheeran, Lionel Richie and the Beatles. Open the curtains! Dance in the kitchen! Remind him of the joys of love, of what Valentine’s Day means to you.
• Focus on showing him how much Valentine’s Day means to you. Have a heart to heart on how important this holiday is, and ask him to make an effort to celebrate it for you.
• Go the extra step by initiating the gift-giving process and celebration of Valentine’s Day yourself.